'I only found out about his daughter that day': Fiancé demands half of future wife's lottery winnings for his secret 5-year-old daughter despite it being in a trust for her 4-year-old son

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
May 28, 2025 10:00 PM EDT

Most of us have probably thought about what we would do if we won the lottery. Every time we buy a scratch-off at the gas station or enter some numbers on a whim we have daydreams about what vacations we would take, what houses we would buy, and what we would do for the people we love. But most of us don't actually get to live that fantasy. It's called the lottery for a reason. It's famously really difficult to win. 

But we rarely talk about what happens to those who do end up winning. We might assume that their life is all figured out and they get to live their dreams, but it might not be so simple. Maybe they have people in their lives who feel that they deserve something from them. Maybe they have nefarious actors around acting in bad faith trying to get something out of them, even if they're just trying to do the right thing with the money and putting it towards their kid's future.

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    Future ex-fiancé is angry because I don't want to share my son's money

    I (f, 35), met my fiancé 2 years ago. My son (4) gets on well with him and my ex-husband (my son's father) also likes him. Now to the point: 3 years ago I won a large sum of money in the lottery. Not millions, but enough for a nice life if I work normally and a
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  • That's what happened to this woman about to enter marriage with a man she apparently didn't know as well as she thought. When it came time to reveal their finances while drawing up a prenup jewel agreement, her future husband had a lot to say. And when he dropped a bombshell about his life, she was left reeling. So she took to the Internet to get some perspective, which it provided in droves. Read on for the story.

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    good start for my son later. 75% went into a savings account that my son will have access to when he's 21. My fiancé always thought he had plenty of money and never let me correct him. I insisted on a prenuptial agreement and for that the
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    finances were disclosed. Now the amount in my son's savings account is about 5 times more than anything my fiancé has. Completely enraged, he left the lawyer's office and ignored all calls for 2 days. For me, that was the end of the relationship and I wrote to him saying that he could have the ring back. A week later,
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    he was at the door. He would love me, but was in shock and now wanted details of where the money had come from. He also told me that he had a 5-year-old daughter from a previous relationship and that it would only be fair to split the money so that
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    his daughter could also benefit from it. He sees it as justified, as I got the money through luck and not through performance. I gave him back the engagement ring and kicked him out of my apartment. Since then, I've been getting messages from various social media profiles and cell phone numbers that I would be
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    the AH who is ruining his daughter's future. I only found out about his daughter that day. I never saw any photos or anything like that in the past years.
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    Commenters came to her defense for cutting him off.

    . AsleepUnit2123 · 5h ago NTA. You did the right thing, breaking things off. Stay broken up. This dude will ruin your life otherwise.
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    . Amazing_Box_3511 OP 4h ago Yes, for me this relationship is over. I'm just shocked at the games he's playing now. I still haven't found out whether he really has a daughter or whether he made it up so he could disappear with half the money.
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    ToldU2UrFace • 4h ago Nta. You dodged a nuke. Go treat you and your son to a fun day. Tge level of entitlement is stunning. Just remember..... not your child. Not his money. trash took it self out. the . . . .
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    Healthy_Glove2045 4h ago What? Your ex fiance suddenly has a 5 yr old daughter? Whom you never met let alone you never knew.
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    85MonteCarloSS 4h ago . You knew this guy for two years, got engaged and didn't know he had a daughter? And he's upset that you didn't mention your son's money?
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    Amazing_Box_3511 OP. 4h ago Well i tried to Tell him about my finances. He never wanted to know. He Always were Kind of: "yeah im the man, you dont have to worry"
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    Vegetable-Cod-23... . 4h ago NTA Wow.... I don't know why he thought admitting to hiding a daughter for TWO YEARS and then that you give her a trust fund for her would win you back OP, but !!!!
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    Also I want to know when he planned to reveal the daughter if he hadn't found out about the trust, I'm think he was definitely going to disclose that after the wedding when he thought he had OP locked down.
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    Lastly, I'm actually seriously thinking op that the daughter is completely fictional and he actually spent the last two days setting up a way to siphon money for his daughters. trust account. I would bet money the second the account was set up, she would 'pass sway' or suddenly have a slew of medical bills that needed to be paid from the trust.
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    Traditional-Pop-9... • 5h ago Issue dodged. Good riddance to him. Lucky you saw his true colours before the wedding.
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    . Own-Lingonberry-... 5h ago Your ex-fiancé's daughter is not your responsibility. The fact he is demanding that you share the money with him is a major red flag. Believe people when they show you who they are. Good riddance to him.
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    FunMonth2447 · 4h ago Dodged a bullet. If he's like that beforehand, keeping secrets and being greedy, what would he be like when you're legally and domestically entangled. RUN.
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    FantasticVast01 5h ago . Why are you wasting your time and energy on this? He is entitled and lied to you, seemingly only telling about his daughter after you revealed your financial situation. You have rightly left him. Of course you are going to be upset but you've made the right choice and need to look forward not back
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    GoldenEagle828677 2h ago I only found out about his daughter that day Way to bury the lede. Even with no other issues, this alone is a reason not to marry the guy
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    Wild_Ad7448 · 3h ago You did the right thing but PLEASE don't give that money to a 21 year old!
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    A. OP 2h ago Edited 2h ago • Wow, thanks for the support. I never expected so many comments or upvotes. probably have some | explaining to do: In my country, lottery winners are never revealed. Sometimes they say in which region a ticket was bought, but never more. Apart from the
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    financial security for my son, there is no sign of the win in my family. I used my part of the win to pay off debts and bought myself a car (neither new nor anything special). We live in the same rented apartment and I still have my job that pays the monthly bills. I treat myself to a 2- week vacation in Australia
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    once a year, but never in luxury. My son wears Temu clothes (he loves the designs) and I don't have any designer stuff myself and always wear my clothes up. So there was never any sign that my fiancé was a gold digger. On the contrary! I had to fight for
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    him not to keep inviting me to dinner or paying for weekend trips (I mostly turned them down). I grew up in a financially unstable. family, so I was always very concerned about being frugal. My son's savings account is also closed to withdrawals before his 21st
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    birthday. You can put money into it but you can't take it out. And even then, only he is allowed to do so. I also will inform and prepare him for that Moment. He will Not be lost and alone with that. He also getting 20 bucks per month, He can do with that whatever He wants. And even now He can save and think about. So 21 is a realistic age.
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